8 Things Guys Like In Bed But Won’t Ask For.

Have you ever found yourself lying beside your partner after an intimate encounter, only to be flooded with doubts about the quality of the experience you both shared? You might begin to analyze every gesture, movement, and expression, eventually convincing yourself that he didn't fully enjoy it. Here's a reality check: you are not the issue.

No matter how confident or independent you are as a woman, when you engage in physical intimacy with someone you love or are attracted to, you become attuned to a heightened level of awareness. 

This heightened awareness makes you more perceptive of every detail during and after the intimate moments, a quality supported by research, which indicates that women are often more in touch with their emotions and more likely to notice subtle behavioral cues that might otherwise go unnoticed.

Don't let these doubts trouble you. The next time you find yourself wondering, 'Did he enjoy it?' or 'What can I do to enhance our connection?' or 'What are his preferences?' remember that you are not to blame. Women around the world have been conditioned to think this way.

However, for every challenge, there is a solution, and today, I'm here to share eight things that men typically appreciate in the bedroom but might not openly communicate. 

So, if you're seeking to add excitement to your sexual life, improve your intimate interactions, or satisfy your partner's desires, it's beneficial to familiarize yourself with these tips in advance, as he may not explicitly express them.

1. They Want You to Be Vocal. 

Hear me out. I know that not every woman loves to hear herself moan during sex, but trust me when I say that men love to listen to you moan and vocally express yourself while they pleasure you. 

Now, I’m not asking you to wail or shout as they show in porn; that might be a turn-off.

But that sensual sigh, the gentle whine, and the occasional moans right into his ear will send him straight to the brink of orgasm. It would help if you tried it tonight. 

Being vocal does not only involve moaning or dirty talking; it is also sensual when you compliment your partner’s effort by saying things along the lines of, “This was amazing, babe.” “I love it when you do that.” “I never knew sex could be this good.” 

Be creative with it, and customize every compliment to the exact feeling he is coaxing out of you at the particular moment. 

A man might not come outrightly to say, “Babe, I need you to be more vocal.” Or “Babe, I need you to moan during sex.” And that’s because it might come off as rude or insensitive.

But I’m telling you here for free that this is one tip your man will sincerely appreciate if you instill it into your sex life.

2. They Want you to Initiate It.

This is probably the most talked-about topic regarding sex. You can only have a well-balanced sexual life if both partners see it as their equal responsibilities to initiate sex whenever they feel like it. There are several studies to back that up. 

When the initiation is completely delegated to the man, it becomes a chore, not something to be thoroughly enjoyed.

We understand that women have been societally conditioned to be shy and reserved about sex. So many of them cannot break this conditioning and have now adapted it to their sexual relationships. It will only spell doom if you aren’t careful. 

As adults, whether you’re a man or a woman, each gender should be able to enjoy sex as much as they want without feeling slutty or unethical. 

Surprise your man today. While he’s at work, you can set up a romantic candlelit dinner in the living room, give him a massage immediately after, and then set the mood. 

This single act can easily lead to one of the most mind-blowing orgasms he will ever have.

3. Take Charge Sometimes. 

Yes, women are impressed by masculinity. They like seeing the man take charge. 

But sometimes, men also want to be pampered, especially during sex. You don’t have to be under all the time; you don’t have to be the one taking all the strokes. Once in a while, you should give it a try. 

It might not be your favorite thing because we won’t pretend that we don’t know it is the receiver who enjoys sex more, but I’m sure you don’t want to be a selfish lover. 

These are not things men would outrightly tell you, but trust me when I say it will change the game forever. 

4. They Love Creative Women. 

Among the desires that men often have but may not openly express in the bedroom, this particular one is likely the most sensitive. 

While many men can comfortably discuss the aforementioned aspects in the right context, it's highly unlikely for any man to straightforwardly state, "Honey, I'd like you to bring more creativity into our intimate moments."

However, in this refreshingly candid article, you'll encounter nothing but unvarnished truths. Creativity serves as the cornerstone of any enduring relationship, as sexual encounters can grow tedious and predictable when shared repeatedly with the same partner.

To maintain the passionate spark, it's essential to introduce some variety. Consider purchasing a fresh set of seductive lingerie, complete with garter belts; men often find such attire incredibly enticing.

5. Be Open to Trying New Things.

Men are consistently pondering ways to add excitement to their intimate experiences. In general, they tend to contemplate sexual matters more frequently than women, leading to the generation of numerous fantasies involving various sexual experiments and fetishes they wish to explore.

However, they often refrain from disclosing these desires, especially if an environment hasn't been cultivated where they feel safe discussing all their fantasies openly.

It's important to ensure your partner feels comfortable enough to share his desires with you. This doesn't mean you have to endorse every idea, but if it aligns with your boundaries and values, there's no harm in giving some of them a try.

6. Learn Geography.

I‘m not talking about a geography degree, no. I mean, study your man’s body, learn all his erogenous zones and use it to your advantage. 

Most women are always clamoring that men don’t take the time to learn their bodies, but if the scripts are flipped, can you confidently point to the zones that make him squirm and tick?

Here is a common mistake women make: “Men are sexual creatures; it doesn’t matter where we touch, they will get turned on.” While this is not entirely false, it shows a lack of effort, which your man would be unhappy about.

7. Make Him Want You.

Of all the things guys like in bed but won’t ask for, this tops the list. There’s no way I can explain this without sounding crazy, but a couple must have reached a high level of intimacy before the man can say, “Touch yourself for me.” 

It is easy for a woman to feel insulted by that statement, so men would rather not mention it to be on the safer side. 

However, if you are looking to spice things up with your guy, this is an activity you should look into. When you touch yourself, all he sees is confidence and security, which is a great turn-on. 

Touch your nipples, play with your clit, and watch him go gaga. 

8. He Might Be Tired of the Bedroom.

You don’t have to use the bedroom all the time. Put on your Dora the Explorer suit and explore. 

There’s the bathroom, the kitchen, and the living room couch; every spot in your house can be used for sexual escapades. You don’t necessarily need to have it planned; spontaneity will make it more interesting. 

Here’s an idea: You are watching a movie with your man in the living room. It is the best time to drive him nuts. You can start by massaging his neck while watching TV, then move to his shoulders —remember what I said about erogenous zones?— by now, he is already feeling hot. 

He will probably broach the idea of taking it to the bedroom, but this is the moment to show him how adventurous you are. Lie back on the couch, and watch your man go crazy over you.

Conclusion. 

It's not necessarily fear that's preventing your partner from sharing these thoughts with you; rather, it's his consideration for your emotions and his desire to avoid making you uncomfortable or upset. 

The greater his affection for you, the more mindful he is of your feelings. It's your opportunity to uncover these secret desires of his and make him feel truly cherished.