8 Things Men Really Need From A Woman.

What are men's expectations when it comes to dating women? It's a complex question, requiring a deep understanding of male psychology, love dynamics, and behavioral patterns. Expert Eric Jaffe, writing in Psychology Today, highlights that deciphering what men want from women is an ever-evolving puzzle. 

While some men excel in articulating their needs, others are often encouraged to mask their emotions and project a facade of self-assurance, making it challenging for people to express their relationship needs or even be aware of them.

Although every man is unique and his happiness is influenced by various factors, there are certain fundamental aspects that nearly every man seeks from a woman he's dating. In this context, let's explore the eight most essential things a man typically desires in a relationship.

1. Affection.

Men are inherently physical beings, and touch plays a significant role in our lives. We are naturally drawn to physical affection, and it's safe to say that a woman who readily shares her affectionate gestures can be highly appealing to us. The warmth and pleasure of physical affection are deeply appreciated by men. 

Just as women desire affection, we also long for a woman to initiate physical contact, such as reaching out to hold our hand, offering an impromptu kiss, giving a comforting embrace, or inquiring about our day. 

These gestures not only convey a sense of desire and connection but also foster better communication. Most importantly, they create a comforting atmosphere, making us feel genuinely welcomed and valued.

2. Respect.

Respect is often defined as the consideration for the feelings, desires, rights, or traditions of others. It can also be seen as the recognition that someone or something holds significance and should be treated with care and seriousness. 

In general, men have a strong need for respect, particularly in the context of dating and relationships. Most men appreciate a woman who values and respects them for their individual qualities and interests.

To show respect, it's important to genuinely acknowledge and encourage what he excels at and is passionate about. It's crucial to be authentic in your admiration and not pretend to have feelings you don't truly possess merely to pique his interest. 

While it may sound somewhat traditional, some men appreciate being seen as heroes in some capacity. This doesn't necessarily mean he has to rescue you, but he wouldn't mind occasionally being the one you turn to for advice and support. 

Asking about his interests, inquiring about his opinions, and seeking his advice when faced with challenges are all essential elements of nurturing a healthy relationship. These actions not only demonstrate that you care but also make a man feel valued and cherished.

3. The C-Word. 

Relationships can become shaky without clear communication. We, as men, greatly value direct and straightforward communication. Hints and subtleties often leave us in need of clarification because we are rational beings who recognize that expressing something directly is not the same as wanting us to understand it implicitly.

So, when you have a specific expectation or desire, it's helpful to tell us, explain it, or even demonstrate how you'd like us to respond. Many of us may not excel in the realm of communication, and we appreciate having some guidance. 

In general, men tend to make decisions based on logical reasoning, while women often draw from their emotions. To meet us halfway, we're willing to match your emotions if you can also engage with us on a logical level.

4. Blinder Sex.

There is sex, and then there's Blinder sex, which gives you blinders and keeps your eyes focused ahead and intensely clear while you're out in public. Let's be honest, men will explore; they're similar to squirrels, easily distracted by shiny things. But there's a difference between observing and desiring. 

We are visual beings, but Blinder sex makes us respond with, 'Yeah, she's pretty, but I'd never trade what I've got for anything else.' Blinder sex is more than just good sex; it's a genuine, deep connection with someone that causes you to fantasize about them in the shower and call in sick so you can spend the day lying in bed, making love, and eating cookies. 

It creates an experience that no one else can have, which is why it gives us blinders. Blinder sex is all about connecting, not just sex.

5. Character.

True attractiveness is not solely defined by your physical appearance but by who you are as a person. Throughout my life, I've encountered many individuals who, despite their physical beauty, had personalities as appealing as a grimy subway station in New York City. 

It's an undeniable truth that we desire someone who places as much importance on authenticity and honesty as they do on looking good.

Think about that girl in your circle of friends who authentically embodies her true self; that's the real you. Don't hesitate to be genuine when you're around us. We've witnessed you share hearty laughs with your friends, so let those genuine laughs flow with us. 

We admire women who possess a sense of humor and don't take themselves too seriously.

Be yourself; if you want to order a pepperoni pizza for lunch and accidentally get ketchup all over your face when we're together, that's perfectly fine. Wear sweatpants and a t-shirt, skip the makeup, and leave your hair undone; we appreciate it all. 

While we enjoy it when you dress up and feel attractive, understand that you don't have to conceal your true self to gain acceptance. If you ever feel the need to do so, it's a sign that you're with the wrong person.

6. Ambition.

Men enjoy taking on the roles of caregivers and family planners, but we also value a woman who can co-plan our lives with us. We don't want to bear the burden of making every decision independently; we seek a visionary partner who can contribute to today's decisions. 

Determined women are often more committed because they possess laser-like focus and unwavering confidence in their future. They comprehend the necessary steps to reach their goals and view failure as a non-option.

Furthermore, a woman who is dedicated to excelling as a mother or in her career demonstrates a commitment to building a successful relationship. When faced with challenging times, she won't hastily give up and walk away. 

Conversely, if she lacks ambition, the outcome may differ significantly. Courage is essential, as it motivates people to find innovative solutions and make things work in various aspects of life.

7. Not To Be Left In The Dark. 

Many women refrain from openly expressing their emotions to men out of concern for not upsetting them or due to fear. However, when you withhold your feelings, it leaves us in the dark, and it seems like you're not sharing your life with us but rather living it around us. 

This lack of transparency prevents us from truly understanding you; instead of experiencing your complete life journey with us, you present pre-packaged fragments of it.

This approach creates distance rather than strengthening the bond between couples. Couples grow and become more resilient when they face challenges together, rather than navigating life in isolation. 

It's essential to realize that by keeping your emotions bottled up, you unintentionally erect barriers within the sacred space of our connection. We don't expect you to pour out all your emotions at once, but we genuinely care about how you feel and want to be part of your emotional journey.

8. Authenticity.

A man doesn't seek a woman who changes her behavior solely to please him, as this might be misinterpreted as having ulterior motives or appearing overly accommodating when your true intention is to bring happiness. 

Instead of approaching your relationship with the question, 'What does this man need from me?' consider asking, 'What do I genuinely want to offer to this man?'

Discover what you naturally desire to give without expecting anything in return; this is the type of energy that both men and people, in general, find appealing.