14 Things Men Say Right Before They Cheat.

Not many individuals enter a relationship with the explicit intention of being unfaithful. Unfortunately, the sad truth is that infidelity is a harsh reality for a significant number of relationships. Cheaters often desire to have the best of both worlds. 

Instead of leaving their current partners if they no longer wish to be with them, they opt to maintain their existing relationship while also having a secret affair on the side. 

So, what steps can you take to protect your heart from getting broken? The first step involves identifying signs that your partner might be cheating or at least considering it. 

It's quite remarkable how many men employ the same phrases when engaging in infidelity, almost as if they've all studied a manual on what to say when cheating.

One common indicator to watch out for is the disappearance of pronouns. When someone is preparing to cheat, they may start discussing a new person in their life, whether it's a friend or a colleague. However, they will deliberately avoid using gender-specific pronouns such as "he" or "she" when referring to this individual. 

Instead, they will use more non-specific terms like "co-worker" or "friend." This linguistic shift is known as the "MIA pronoun," which stands for "missing in action." The absence of gender-specific language might indicate an absence of ethical commitment. So, here are 14 phrases that people often use right before they engage in infidelity.

1. "DO YOU LIKE MY NEW HAIRCUT?"

Suppose your significant other has sported the same hairstyle for the past ten years but suddenly appears at home with a strikingly different haircut. In the view of Jonathan Bennett, a certified psychotherapist and co-owner of the dating site "Double Trust Dating," this change could be a signal of an attempt to make a positive impression on someone else. 

Bennett suggests that alterations in one's appearance, such as shedding weight or acquiring new attire, may also serve as subtle indicators of potential infidelity.

2. "THIS MONTH, I'LL TAKE CARE OF THE BILLS."

If your partner takes extra measures to prevent you from accessing the credit card account, there's a high likelihood that they're concealing something they don't want you to discover. 

It's important to stay vigilant for potential indications of financial misconduct, such as maintaining privacy about their spending habits, unexplained account balances, or a sudden increase in spending on personal appearance.

3. "Respect My Privacy Don't Touch My Phone." 

If your partner is engaged in infidelity, it's probable that there is incriminating evidence on their phone. They will go to great lengths to conceal this evidence, as they want to avoid detection at all costs. 

While some individuals might habitually bring their phone into the bathroom to ensure they don't miss important calls or texts, if this behavior is new for them, it could be an indication that they're trying to prevent their partner from accessing their phone. 

In healthy relationships, couples never feel the need to hide, monitor, or worry about their phone being scrutinized.

4. "YOU'RE BEING OVERLY ANXIOUS."

A typical method to absolve oneself of guilt is to point the finger at the other person and make them doubt themselves. According to Lisa Lawless, PhD, a sexual health expert and CEO of Holistic Wisdom, cheaters often attempt to mislead their partners by labeling them as paranoid when confronted about their actions. 

This manipulative strategy aims to deflect responsibility away from the cheater. It's a significant warning sign because someone who isn't involved in infidelity would typically be more willing to engage in an open discussion with their partner and reassure them that everything is okay.

5. "WE'RE JUST FRIENDS; I DON'T EVEN FIND HER APPEALING."

When confronted with the discovery of developing feelings for someone else, your partner may often react defensively and vehemently deny any wrongdoing. People commonly respond with phrases like "he's just a friend," and while this could be true, it could also be a blatant deception. 

Cheaters often attempt to minimize the significance of their relationship with their paramour by insisting they are merely friends and not their type. If you have legitimate reasons to suspect that their connection goes beyond mere friendship, it's essential to investigate further. 

It's important to acknowledge that being in a committed relationship doesn't prevent individuals from experiencing attractions to others. It's perfectly normal for your spouse to feel attracted to someone else, but the problem arises when they act on that attraction in a manner that breaches trust and disrespects your relationship.

6. I Need A Break. 

Men often use phrases like "I need a break" as a precursor to infidelity. Additionally, they may express a need for "more." One of the most prevalent reasons why individuals entertain the idea of cheating is their craving for something new or different in their lives. 

This could involve seeking sexual encounters with another person, indulging in fantasies, or simply searching for love and connection outside of their current relationship.

7. I Don't Mind. 

When your spouse starts showing disinterest in your activities, your choice of company, your spending habits, or your whereabouts, it could be a sign that they are teetering on the brink of infidelity. Cheaters tend to exhibit apathy towards your life choices because they don't value the relationship as they should. 

This indifference differs significantly from the trust that comes with a loving and caring bond. When you trust someone, you still hold them in high regard. In contrast, individuals contemplating infidelity typically stop inquiring about your personal life because they want to prevent you from prying into their own.

8. "I Know You're Cheating On Me."

Ironically, one straightforward way to gauge if your spouse might be cheating on you is by how often they accuse you of infidelity. Accusations of this nature are a common deflection tactic, often stemming from their own feelings of guilt. 

Such behavior serves the dual purpose of placing blame on you, which can leave you on the defensive and preoccupied with their actions. Bethany Ricciardi, a knowledgeable expert in sex and relationships, describes this as a highly deceptive practice. 

It may seem as if they vehemently detest cheating and would never engage in it themselves, given their passionate outrage during such discussions. However, it's worth noting that their actions may already contradict their words.

9. "HOW ABOUT SWITCHING THINGS UP IN BED TONIGHT?"

It's advisable to exercise caution if your partner suddenly introduces significant changes to your intimate life. 

Jennifer Kelman, an experienced clinical social worker and mental health expert on JustAnswer, suggests that when individuals are experimenting with new experiences with someone they've recently met, they might return home and attempt to introduce these new elements into their existing relationship. 

If their partner isn't interested, it could reinforce their perception that the relationship has become monotonous, potentially justifying their inclination to end it due to sexual monotony. Another motive behind an unfaithful partner initiating more sexual activity might be to avoid arousing suspicions about their infidelity.

10. "Can You Hold Me."

Feeling loved and desired is a wonderful experience on its own. However, if your partner suddenly starts seeking more significant physical affection from you, it could be an attempt to alleviate their own guilt or to divert attention away from their own actions, possibly related to infidelity. 

This increased clinginess may be a sign of underlying emotional turmoil or a strategy to shift the focus away from their own behavior.

11. "HAVE I EVER TOLD YOU HOW GOOD YOU LOOK TODAY?"

A person engaged in infidelity might use acts of kindness to conceal their guilt. According to Romani Der Vasula, a certified clinical psychologist and relationship specialist on Tone Networks, when someone starts contemplating infidelity, they may begin offering an increased number of compliments. 

In fact, they might go out of their way to be exceptionally considerate and helpful.

12. "HOW EXACTLY DID YOU MANAGE TO CLEAN UP EVERYTHING WRONG?"

While it's important to acknowledge that a cheating partner is in the wrong, they may also be inclined to undermine their significant other. In many cases, a man who is engaged in infidelity experiences a considerable amount of guilt. 

Unfortunately, this guilt can sometimes be projected onto their partner, leading them to feel negatively about themselves. If your partner has unexpectedly become angry and aggressive without an apparent cause, it's essential to have a serious conversation with them about the state of your relationship.

13. "I Am Sorry Not Texting You Today; Work Was Extremely Hectic." 

Your partner used to send occasional texts throughout the day, but now they attribute their absence to an excessive workload. If your partner withdraws attention that they once gave you, it's possible they are redirecting it to others. 

For instance, if you were accustomed to receiving numerous text messages and phone calls throughout the day, but this communication suddenly ceases without any explanation, someone else might now be receiving that level of attention.

14. "I SHOULD RETIRE IN DUBAI ONE DAY."

Pay attention to whether your partner uses "I" or "we" when talking about the future. If they start favoring the former, it could suggest that they are contemplating a future without you. You might notice them saying things like, "I really want to visit Hawaii someday" or "I'd love to purchase a house in Spain," indicating a shift in their perspective.

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