9 Signs She’s Pretending to Love You.

Occasionally, a woman may opt to be in a relationship for reasons other than genuine love. However, it's crucial to remain perceptive and recognize the signs, even if she's skilled at concealing her true feelings. 

The primary challenge in identifying insincere affection lies in acknowledging the absence of genuine love.

Frequently, our desperation for love from a specific individual blinds us to the absence of authentic affection. We willingly turn a blind eye because we prefer to believe in their love for us rather than accept the painful reality that they don't love us.

Therefore, if you aim to detect feigned love, the initial step is to be open to facing the truth. When you observe these signs, resist the urge to dismiss them as insignificant. 

The truth may be difficult to accept, and it can be painful to acknowledge that someone doesn't love you. However, this honesty is far healthier in the long run than self-deception.

With that in mind, here are nine indicators that a woman may be feigning love.

1. She takes advantage of your love.

This might be one of the reasons why she continues to feign affection for you. She finds pleasure in your longing for her, as it grants her a position of superiority within the relationship, instilling a sense of power and control.

You can identify a woman who is exploiting your love when she begins to engage in manipulative tactics. For instance, a woman who professes her love for you suddenly starts to withdraw, taking extended periods, sometimes more than a day, to respond to your messages. 

What's more, when she eventually does reply, she doesn't bother to provide an explanation for her behavior.

Here's another scenario: In public, she doesn't hesitate to embarrass you in front of others, speaking derogatorily to you on the phone, even when she's aware that her friends are present, listening, and aware of her conversation with you.

Or perhaps the most telling sign: She consistently requests money from you without showing concern for how you obtain it. These are all indicators that she is capitalizing on your affection for her.

Here's the key point to remember: Someone who genuinely loves you will not exploit your love to inflict harm. Instead, they will appreciate your affection, and if they have any issues with you, they will address them openly, as their goal is to nurture a flourishing relationship.

2. She always wants to get away.

You can detect her impatience whenever you're in her company. After just a few minutes of conversation with you, she starts fidgeting, tapping her feet, and glancing toward the exit, as if there's something more pressing she's missing out on.

If you're in a relationship with a woman who views spending time with you as an obligation, it's a clear indication that she's feigning affection. This is also the reason why she might frequently cancel your planned outings.

Perhaps, in the initial stages of the relationship, she managed to put on a facade of enjoying your company. However, as time goes by, even the most skilled actor will eventually grow weary of constant pretense. She'll become drained.

When someone genuinely loves you, they eagerly seek opportunities to be with you, and they feel a sense of longing when you're apart. The signs are unmistakable. 

You'll notice how she leans in when talking to you, maintains eye contact, and remains fully engaged in the moment while conversing. She won't be in a hurry to distance herself from you.

3. She hides your relationship. 

Now, this doesn't revolve around her reluctance to share pictures of your relationship on social media. Not everyone feels the need to publicize their romantic life. However, if a woman professes love but consistently avoids introducing you to anyone close to her, it's a warning sign. 

It could be that she's either embarrassed about what her friends might think of you, there's another person in the equation, or she's merely biding her time while waiting for the right individual to come along. In any case, it's not a positive development for you.

You deserve a woman who takes pride in you and eagerly introduces you to her circle.

Here's a noteworthy aspect about women: They tend to discuss the guys they have an interest in with their friends. If she genuinely likes you, chances are, she has already talked about you with her friends either before or after your initial date. 

That's just how it typically goes. If a woman adamantly refuses to let anyone know that she's in a relationship with you, there's a substantial likelihood that she's merely pretending to love you.

4. Repeatedly cancels dates with you.

When girls are interested in a guy, they eagerly anticipate going on a date with him. They put effort into their appearance for the occasion and envision enjoyable moments that could transpire during the date. Moreover, if the date goes well, they aspire to have more of those positive experiences.

Conversely, if she doesn't have romantic feelings for you, agreeing to go on a date with you becomes a challenging task for her. 

She may outrightly decline your invitation or initially agree but later stand you up, citing a vague excuse like "something came up." Furthermore, no matter how many times you attempt to arrange a date, she consistently finds reasons not to go out with you.

When a girl repeatedly cancels dates with you, it's a clear indicator that her affections for you may not be genuine.

5. The self-obsessive behavior.

She readily becomes irritated when things don't go her way. If she requests money and you're unable to provide it, she penalizes you for it by ignoring your calls or distancing herself from you for a while.

All of these are indications that she may not genuinely care about you. Her primary focus appears to be on what she can gain from the relationship. This could be the reason she initially targeted you—recognizing an opportunity within your affection for her and being prepared to exploit it.

It's important to recognize that when someone truly loves you, they will genuinely care about your well-being. They'll strive to alleviate your distress and make life more manageable for you in any way possible.

In many instances, love leads individuals to make sacrifices for the ones they love, even if it means enduring discomfort to ensure their loved one's comfort. This is why parents are willing to go to great lengths to provide a better life for their children.

6. She doesn’t see a future with you.

You've just expressed your desire to build a future together with her, but regrettably, she doesn't reciprocate your enthusiasm. Instead, she manages to offer a weak, half-hearted response, a mere "Okay."

Another method to gauge whether a woman envisions a future with you is by assessing her level of commitment to the relationship. A woman who loves you and desires a future with you will invest more effort into making the relationship thrive. 

She'll be actively engaged, contributing to your personal growth, aiming for the best version of you in the shared future.

Why? Because she yearns for a future that involves the finest rendition of you by her side. However, if she exhibits a lack of concern for what your life might look like in the next decade, spends your money without consideration for its source, she is likely just feigning affection.

In simpler terms, a woman who envisions a future with you will display a genuine interest in your future. She'll engage in discussions about her own future plans, inquire about yours, and, most importantly, actively collaborate with you to manifest that envisioned future into reality.

7. She doesn’t respect you.

As the proverb goes, "Love is inseparable from respect, and trust is the foundation for a lasting connection." Love, respect, and admiration are interconnected, and you can't truly possess one without the others. The qualities that lead you to admire and love someone are the very qualities that elicit your respect.

Therefore, if a woman professes love for you but consistently demonstrates disrespect, it may suggest that her love for you is not as genuine as it should be.

For example, if she speaks ill of you to her friends, recounting how you were unable to provide the small sum she requested for her makeup, and she doesn't hesitate to ignore your calls or insult you in front of them, these actions indicate a lack of genuine affection.

When a girl engages in such behavior, it's a clear sign that she's playing games and likely views you as a source of amusement, passing the time until someone she deems better comes along.

8. She doesn’t invest in the relationship.

When a woman genuinely loves her man, she actively takes deliberate actions to maintain his interest. She goes to great lengths to impress him, strives to enhance her allure, works on her physical fitness, and more. 

She becomes more supportive and dedicated to the relationship, with the aim of making him acutely aware of her deep affection.

In simple terms, when she loves you, she is wholeheartedly invested in the success of the relationship.

However, a woman who doesn't have genuine love for you will display a lack of concern for the relationship. This becomes evident through her minimal effort in trying to impress you or look her best. In fact, she may not be bothered by the idea of losing you to other women.

For instance, if you are married, you'll never witness any signs of jealousy or concern from her when you stay out late. If you are dating, the attention you receive from other women won't hold any significance to her.

9. She bad-mouths you to others.

This represents another manifestation of disrespect.

A significant indicator that her feelings for you may be lacking is her willingness to tarnish your reputation in front of others, including her friends, coworkers, and family. She may have shared unflattering stories about you that cast you in a negative light.

She might rationalize this behavior as merely being candid, calling things as she sees them.

Conversely, a woman who genuinely loves you will refrain from speaking ill of you to others because she desires to see you respected and well-regarded by those around you. She will take care of your reputation as diligently as she would her own.